June 26th, 2013
We’re into wedding season, and hopefully you’re not panicking about bringing a present. We’re here to help!
You have one year to give a present. Ideally, you would ship the gift to their home two weeks before the blessed event, but what if you have five weddings? That could put a dent in your budget. So work with your friends if you need to. A good rule of thumb is to give the present within the first six months after the wedding.
Also, if the bride and groom register before the wedding, feel free to choose items for their birthdays or holidays. And by the same token, feel free to not use the registry.
You shouldn’t feel that you’re buying your way into the wedding.
As with most things, the cost of attending is a bit more than just the cost of the present. So if you’re watching your budget, you will want to add up all the incidentals like an outfit, gas, hotel if you spend the night somewhere else, etc., and decide if you want to choose to attend or not. You can still send a present or a card.
Per Modern Bride magazine, the average amount of a wedding present is $75. Summer Krecke, deputy editor of WeddingChannel.com, offers a few guidelines based on the guest’s relationship to the bride or groom: If it’s a co-worker’s wedding, you should spend $75 to $100; a relative or friend, $100-$125; and if it’s a close friend or close relative, anywhere from $100 to $150 or more is acceptable.
Also, if you’re part of a destination wedding, such as Hawaii, the bride and groom do not expect an additional gift. Your presence should be present enough since you shelled out a lot of money just to be there.
Here’s probably what not to do. Remember, you have time after the wedding, so don’t panic and buy something from the gas station on your way.
“$10 in scratch tickets.”
“$100 worth of quarters.”
“A graduation card with $7.”
“A hundred $1 bills rolled up in a rubber band.”
“Boxers with money in them.”
“Two cents and a nasty note inside a card.”
“A check from my husband’s friend, and in the ‘for’ line, it said ‘vasectomy.'”
“A check that bounced.”
“A hurricane evacuation backpack full of MREs (meals ready to eat), first-aid kit, ponchos, etc.”
“A pink can opener with the word ‘love’ on it.”
“A used walking cane.”
“24 double rolls of toilet paper.”
“A high-heeled shoe cake server.”
“A magnifying glass.”
“Dog shock collar — we don’t have a dog.”
“A 3-ft. SpongeBob SquarePants pirate doll.”
“Autographed picture of Bret Michaels.”
“A cat suit.”
“A picture frame with the wrong initials on it.”
If you’re married, what was the best wedding gift that you got?